I have been dealing with masturbation for a couple of years now. When I first started to masturbate I had no idea it was wrong. I found out soon after and was disgusted with myself that I had committed the sin so many times. Since I found out that masturbation was wrong I have been trying to stop. I have only successfully been abstinent for weeks at a time so far. I was wondering if you guys had any advice on how I could stop. Also, how do I need to repent of it and is there really a need to repent of it at all, or do I just need to stop before it leads to serious sins?
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I've been haven't masturbated for a month until last night. How do I get back on track? I feel worthless.
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I have always wanted to get rid of my masturbation addiction. I started when I was in 5th grade, not knowing it was bad. It wasn't until eighth grade that I found out that it was against the Lord's will. By then, I was already addicted to it. There have been some times where I have gone clean for a few months. There are other times where I've done it twice a day for several weeks. I hate it. Most of the time, I'm in my room when it happens. I'm scared to tell my parents because I have always been a "model child," I guess you could say. I have lived righteously except for this. I have told my best friend, a Mormon, about my addiction and she has helped me try to overcome it. I want to change and I have tried to change, but I can't get rid of it 100%. Please help me.
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I don't have much to do and I am feeling tempted right now. To remain accountable and to eliminate my isolation I just want to type out my feelings... I am on day 70 of being clear, and I had a wet dream... ((I can't believe I send posts like this... sigh...)) but it is what it is, and I don't want to fail.
I am having some difficulty now. It deals with the same intimacy thing that I may had difficulty with last time. I don't know how to describe it, My addiction and problem will try to evolve into different things to trick me to fall back into my past behavior... I have a hard time believing that I had a real wet dream when I am thinking about "future relations" ((if you understand my mind)) I can't let that get in my mind, I can't pretend like this is ok. I know one day I can marry, and that will be a great time. But right now I am with no women, SO GET OUT OF MY MIND! ... or at least help me understand what I need to acknowledge about myself, and allow myself to bridle and control my desires. This doesn't mean I have to destroy my sexuality, but it is not appropriate for me to be doing that in order to seek comfort, or to hid from whatever issue I might be having, I don't know yet...
This is embarrassing to type like this, but this is the TRUTH, and its been sad in the past that I've had to remain confused just because I was too afraid to ask. I admit everything, and I seek God's Guidance to help and save me.
Rather or not I had a real wet dream or not doesn't matter. If I influenced anything in anyway then whatever...The important thing right now is to not masturbate.
It is better to pray for understanding of the situation and repent rather than wine and complain and give up just because I slept for too long... ((gee if I just went to seminary I would have been ok!?))
There is no reason to give up... I admit at this time though, I'm going to stop counting the days... it just isn't necessary, I used to think that it was impossible for a young man to stop masturbation (and porn), ((I don't have to crush this god given attraction but...)) but I know that it is possible to stop (control). As so long as I don't become obsessive and fall back like I used to, then I believe I am in good hands and as so long as I keep myself accountable to my bishop, close friends, God, and myself...
I am also kind of afraid of failing right now, I'm ok right now, but I just want to put myself out there... that is all... thanks.
Please help...
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I have had problem a problem with masturbation in the past. Recently I have turned over a new leaf and have been pretty sucessful so far of stating sober. I was reading president kimballs talk on chasity and he stated that masturbation was a common indescretion. This made me wonder if masturbation was not as serious of a as people make it be. I know what's right, which, is to stop, but sometimes it's hard to, especially when something can feel so good. please help me and give me some advice. Thanks
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I'm working very hard on controlling my thoughts. I'm staying away from any music, websites, movies or any other form of media that could be pornographic in any way. However, I keep having pornographic dreams. I wake up and feel so guilty. What can I do to stop this?
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what ppl fail to realize is that pornography and masturbation isn't only an issue for males. i'm a 17 year old female in the LDS church, and I've been addicted to masturbation. my problem is that I've talked to my bishop already and I was doing really good for a month or so, but i keep falling back. can someone please give me advice to help stop? i really want to partake of the sacrament and just rid myself of this because im so tired of this addiction. plz help!
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OK so I have a problem with reading gay literature. I am not gay but for some reason when I'm alone that's what i do. does that make me gay? I don't like it, but i cant stop! please what should i do?
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I'm trying super hard to give up masturbation. I get really really down on myself if I slip up. Should it be such an issue to be 100% abstinant all the time? Help please!!!
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Hey, i have a problem with masterbating. It goes against my religon and i really want to stop it. Can you give me any help?
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I am 17 years old. I started masturbating when I was 12 or 13. At the time I didn't know what it was, it just felt good so I did it. I didn't realize what It was until I was 15, but by then I was way to addicted to stop. Luckily, Over the past few months I have been able to stop. Do I need to talk to my bishop about this? Will it keep me from serving a mission?
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I really feel like I should get my Patriarcal Blessing, I'm currently trying to stop masturbating so I'm not completely free of it. Am I Worthy to get it? If I'm am I'm so nervous because I've messed up so much in my life so I'm scared that the whole thing will be Heavenly Father Chastising me. I feel like I don't deserve one. I know that sounds kind of ridiculous but it's really how I feel. What should I do?
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I am really tempted to masturbate in bed at night and in the morning. What steps can I take to remove some of the tempation? Anything anyone has found to be successful?
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How serious is it to have done stuff over a webcam? I feel horrible about it but can't tell my bishop because it's too bad to admit that I did anything so gross.
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I was sexually abused as a child and because of it have same gender attraction. In the Gospel we learn that to obtain the highest level of glory you have to be married for eternity. This really scares me because I don't know if I'll ever get married. I'm so scared that I'm going to not make it, what should I do?
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I got into pornography when I was 12. I could not seem stop until the middle of last year. I repented of it but, in late December I fell back into the habit a couple times. After the first week of January, I committed myself to stopping and I did. Now the repenting process to my Heavenly Father seems even more difficult than before and I really think i should see my bishop. I honestly don't care about the embarrassment of going to him but I'm afraid that he will stop me from serving a mission. I honestly have a strong testimony in this church and truly want to serve the lord, but this problem has put a damper on my life. Do I see the bishop anyway and delay my mission, or do i just keep praying about it?
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I am trying to prepare for a mission( im 17) and i know that it is very important for me to discontinue masturabation. I have gotten alot better already, but i still find it difficult at times to avoid it. Please give me any tips and advice! I want to beat this thing!
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I'm addicted to masturbation but not on pornography may addiction started after I have serve my mission I have seek help with my bishop and its been one week that I have not masturbated but I keep having urges and want to do it again pls help any advice
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how much can i be open to friends or roommates about my problems? is it weird to talk about masturbation or pornography with them? i just wish i had someone to talk to.
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how do i fight the part of me that really wants to keep masturbating and looking at pornography. the longest i've made it since i started was for 4 mos. i don't think i'll ever be able to make long-term progress.
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This question is for those who have had a problem with masturbation and porn, but have gotten passed it. I am wondering if getting passed the habit is like going through withdrawl on a drug. What I mean by this is, yes it's hard to do, but does it become easier afterward? If so, it would give me something to look forward to in the future. Also for those that passed their habit, can you tell me how you did it personally. I'm getting desperate for ideas.
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How serious is masturbation?
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i found out a girl likes me and i like her, but last time i was together with a girl it ended really badly. what do i do?
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hi, im 23 a returned missionary and am suffering from an additcion to masturbation and pornography. i suppose i should fill you in on my lead up to this point. i have been brought up a member of the LDS faith and while i consider myself active and an otherwise good person i really struggle in this area of personal restraint. Growing up i never recieved the birds and bees talk from my parents so everything i learnt was from my non-member friends in school. at 11 a school friend told me about masturbation and so i decided to try it out. and while i felt incredibly guilty afterwards i really liked the way it made me feel physically. Ofcourse i inside i instictively knew i probably shouldnt be doing this, but the urges kept returning and it became a regular habit. throughout my youth i was always taught in young mens about morality and how what i was doing was wrong but i never admitted it to anyone, not even my bishop. i figured i should be able to get incontrol of it myself (it also didnt help that for alot of my youth my dad was my bishop). Even in interviews i could never bring myself to admit that i had a real problem with it. i tried many times throughout my youth to quit. somtimes i would last a few days, sometimes a couple of weeks at most i think i lasted a month. when i was 19 i decided that i needed to serve a mission and tried my best to abandon masturbation. and i feel i almost did. While i could refrain from going all the way i would still play with myself and stimulate these feelings within myself. however i felt technically i wasnt masturbating if i didnt finish the job. i know this was wrong but i believed it was better than nothing. i must also admit that occasionally i would look at pornography during my youth. not regularly though ranging from, once every few months to once a year. eventually i managed to supress my masturbation cravings and pornograhpy and felt i had tried my best to repent for my actions. growing up i must stress that i was extrememly sorry for my actions and repented on many occasions but each time i would give in and sin again. it almost felt that it was out of my control. once i felt ready i organised to have my interviews for a mission and went and served. it was the best experience of my life, however i only lasted 4 months before i slipped up and masturbated. while i tried to quit again it eventually crept back into my life and i continued to masturbate for the duration of my mission. it had a huge toll as i constantly felt unworthy of the mantle and i even turned down leadership positions as i felt inadequate because of my sins. my entire mission i still never confessed to my mission president as i felt embarrassed, that i should handle it myself and that if i did i may be sent home. (looking back i should have told him) once i got home i again managed to kick the habit for a couple of months, but eventually i fell back into the practice of masturbation and have also started looking at pornography again. i have since confessed to my bishop with the hope that he would help me through this but at the same time i dont feel any support from him. he has told me to correct this behavior and repent and come see him in 3 months. i really dont feel that he cares enough or gives me enough support that i need. what frustrates me more is that i know the doctorine on this. i know it is all wrong.and that while it is not the worst sin i could commit it is not somthing in which i should continue. At the same time i still love the feelings that i get from masturbating and looking at pornography. but i also feel unworthy for doing it. i know many other members of the church also practice these things and are trying to quit, so while i dont feel alone in this, it is not exactly somthing that is openly discussed. can i ever really quit masturbating forever? i feel if i can control masturbation then pornography will also be resolved as i wont have any reason to look at it. I am currently dating and preparing to find my future wife, how can i make sure i am 100% pure for her her when i find her and want to marry her.
have any of you been in the same situation as me?
how have you overcome this?
do you ever really overcome it?
any help will be greatly appreciated.
thanks
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Ive been struggling with a problem ever since i came home from my mission ive been falling into inactivity. Its been slow but now i see how fall ive fallen away, going to church is a chore reading scripture as well. I go to church and i just want to leave. I got married in the temple to. and my wife doesnt really know how to help me. I really feel lost and alone at this point and dont know what to do. Can anyone help?
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In the past i have given into porn/masturbation temptations a few times and have confessed to my bishop about those times. About 2 months ago I was ordained an Elder and 2 weeks later at the trial of my faith gave into the temptations to which i was brought to a very lowly state and very angry at myself. Since then I have confessed my sins to the Lord and have not repeated these sins and have been very obedient even in what i thought was the hardest of temptations. Day by day i am reminded in my head of how un-christlike the things i did were.
My questions are: How do I forgive myself for what i have done? & Is it required to confess these sins/transgressions to my bishop?
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what am i supposed to do if i accidentlly masturbate again?
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Hey My husband has been addicted to porn sinse he was 9. It is tearing our marriage appart! He has finally decided he wants to stop! We don't have any money for support groups, books, therapy or anything! Are there any free books, workbooks, online sources or anything that will help him. Is this a hopeless cause or does he have a chance? I can't take it much longer, my heart can only handle so much pain!
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When I tell my bishop (who is working with me with my problems) that I will get through the week without a problem I always have a little doubt in the back of my head......does anyone know how to stop doubt?
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I am trying to stop masturbating and i have already improved greatly. is it ok if i have the occasional relapse. i feel terrible after and i continue abstinance. help!!
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i thought i had it under control but slipped how can i get ride of it forever
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I can"t stop. This is ecoming a huge problem... if my wife finds out my marriage would be ruined!
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I have a probelem with masterbation. With it, a slight problem with porn. I have had both for about a year now. I have talked to my Bishop and he has been helping me. I speak with him every Sunday, and every week, if I have had even one "session" he will not allow me to participate in teh sacrament. I pray about this constantly and am beginning to fast about it. Everytime I have a "session" imediately afterward, I hate myself to the point where I have even hurt myself. There hasn't been releif and I haven't participated in the Sacrament for maybe more than a month. Any help?
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Ok iv been with a guy for a couple of months now (im a girl)
and i dont think its working what should i say to him??
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I want to stop masturbating but at the same time i dont. HELP!!
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I'm gay/ssa/homosexual or whatever you want to call it. I have been dating and trying to live the life the Church prescribes. The problem is that I always become the best friend to the people that I am dating. I soon turn into someone that they can confide in and help with their boy troubles and drama. I haven't had a serious girlfriend in over 2 yeasr now and it is starting to bother me. I would like to have a serious girlfriend--one that I can cuddle with, kiss, and confide in.
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Is it ok to masturbate?
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What is the best way stop the urges. I want to get rid of the feelings.
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I need someone to talk to
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i am gay and i DON'T want to change.
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I fell again today. Is there anyone out there that is on Google Talk on a regular basis that I could talk to when I'm struggling? Dangit! I'm so sick of this addiction. I've seen this coming for days now. Why could I not prevent it? Am I ever going to be free of this?
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Is it ok to masturbate once in a while?
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Will masturbation effect your mission?
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How do I avoid the temptation to masturbate? Im trying to stop but its hard
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Is there anyone out there struggling with same-sex attraction? Do you have any suggestions or help to deal with this? Thanks.
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Hi Guys,
DO u have any advice or any uplifting stories on overcoming being gay ??
Thanks in advance
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is masturbation by itself a serious sin? is it a big deal or does it not matter in the long run? is it bad i find it appealing?
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well i'm really confussed on my life right now i dont really know what to do
guys are confussing me right now like real bad!
i like this guy but i dont know idf he likes me i think he dose well no i ddont, i think sometimes is he takeing advantege of me idk
i pray to go to help me but idk
Help me please
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I am what you call a late bloomer. I hav barely hit puberty and im 16. I have started to masturbate because i think it will help speed up the process. Should i continue to do it?
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How do i repent of masturbation?
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