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hi, im 23 a returned missionary and am suffering from an additcion to masturbation and pornography. i suppose i should fill you in on my lead up to this point. i have been brought up a member of the LDS faith and while i consider myself active and an otherwise good person i really struggle in this area of personal restraint. Growing up i never recieved the birds and bees talk from my parents so everything i learnt was from my non-member friends in school. at 11 a school friend told me about masturbation and so i decided to try it out. and while i felt incredibly guilty afterwards i really liked the way it made me feel physically. Ofcourse i inside i instictively knew i probably shouldnt be doing this, but the urges kept returning and it became a regular habit. throughout my youth i was always taught in young mens about morality and how what i was doing was wrong but i never admitted it to anyone, not even my bishop. i figured i should be able to get incontrol of it myself (it also didnt help that for alot of my youth my dad was my bishop). Even in interviews i could never bring myself to admit that i had a real problem with it. i tried many times throughout my youth to quit. somtimes i would last a few days, sometimes a couple of weeks at most i think i lasted a month. when i was 19 i decided that i needed to serve a mission and tried my best to abandon masturbation. and i feel i almost did. While i could refrain from going all the way i would still play with myself and stimulate these feelings within myself. however i felt technically i wasnt masturbating if i didnt finish the job. i know this was wrong but i believed it was better than nothing. i must also admit that occasionally i would look at pornography during my youth. not regularly though ranging from, once every few months to once a year. eventually i managed to supress my masturbation cravings and pornograhpy and felt i had tried my best to repent for my actions. growing up i must stress that i was extrememly sorry for my actions and repented on many occasions but each time i would give in and sin again. it almost felt that it was out of my control. once i felt ready i organised to have my interviews for a mission and went and served. it was the best experience of my life, however i only lasted 4 months before i slipped up and masturbated. while i tried to quit again it eventually crept back into my life and i continued to masturbate for the duration of my mission. it had a huge toll as i constantly felt unworthy of the mantle and i even turned down leadership positions as i felt inadequate because of my sins. my entire mission i still never confessed to my mission president as i felt embarrassed, that i should handle it myself and that if i did i may be sent home. (looking back i should have told him) once i got home i again managed to kick the habit for a couple of months, but eventually i fell back into the practice of masturbation and have also started looking at pornography again. i have since confessed to my bishop with the hope that he would help me through this but at the same time i dont feel any support from him. he has told me to correct this behavior and repent and come see him in 3 months. i really dont feel that he cares enough or gives me enough support that i need. what frustrates me more is that i know the doctorine on this. i know it is all wrong.and that while it is not the worst sin i could commit it is not somthing in which i should continue. At the same time i still love the feelings that i get from masturbating and looking at pornography. but i also feel unworthy for doing it. i know many other members of the church also practice these things and are trying to quit, so while i dont feel alone in this, it is not exactly somthing that is openly discussed. can i ever really quit masturbating forever? i feel if i can control masturbation then pornography will also be resolved as i wont have any reason to look at it. I am currently dating and preparing to find my future wife, how can i make sure i am 100% pure for her her when i find her and want to marry her. have any of you been in the same situation as me? how have you overcome this? do you ever really overcome it? any help will be greatly appreciated. thanks

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Ive been struggling with a problem ever since i came home from my mission ive been falling into inactivity. Its been slow but now i see how fall ive fallen away, going to church is a chore reading scripture as well. I go to church and i just want to leave. I got married in the temple to. and my wife doesnt really know how to help me. I really feel lost and alone at this point and dont know what to do. Can anyone help?

In the past i have given into porn/masturbation temptations a few times and have confessed to my bishop about those times. About 2 months ago I was ordained an Elder and 2 weeks later at the trial of my faith gave into the temptations to which i was brought to a very lowly state and very angry at myself. Since then I have confessed my sins to the Lord and have not repeated these sins and have been very obedient even in what i thought was the hardest of temptations. Day by day i am reminded in my head of how un-christlike the things i did were. My questions are: How do I forgive myself for what i have done? & Is it required to confess these sins/transgressions to my bishop?

what am i supposed to do if i accidentlly masturbate again?

Hey My husband has been addicted to porn sinse he was 9. It is tearing our marriage appart! He has finally decided he wants to stop! We don't have any money for support groups, books, therapy or anything! Are there any free books, workbooks, online sources or anything that will help him. Is this a hopeless cause or does he have a chance? I can't take it much longer, my heart can only handle so much pain!

When I tell my bishop (who is working with me with my problems) that I will get through the week without a problem I always have a little doubt in the back of my head......does anyone know how to stop doubt?

I am trying to stop masturbating and i have already improved greatly. is it ok if i have the occasional relapse. i feel terrible after and i continue abstinance. help!!

i thought i had it under control but slipped how can i get ride of it forever

I can"t stop. This is ecoming a huge problem... if my wife finds out my marriage would be ruined!

I have a probelem with masterbation. With it, a slight problem with porn. I have had both for about a year now. I have talked to my Bishop and he has been helping me. I speak with him every Sunday, and every week, if I have had even one "session" he will not allow me to participate in teh sacrament. I pray about this constantly and am beginning to fast about it. Everytime I have a "session" imediately afterward, I hate myself to the point where I have even hurt myself. There hasn't been releif and I haven't participated in the Sacrament for maybe more than a month. Any help?

Ok iv been with a guy for a couple of months now (im a girl) and i dont think its working what should i say to him??

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I want to stop masturbating but at the same time i dont. HELP!!

I'm gay/ssa/homosexual or whatever you want to call it. I have been dating and trying to live the life the Church prescribes. The problem is that I always become the best friend to the people that I am dating. I soon turn into someone that they can confide in and help with their boy troubles and drama. I haven't had a serious girlfriend in over 2 yeasr now and it is starting to bother me. I would like to have a serious girlfriend--one that I can cuddle with, kiss, and confide in.

Is it ok to masturbate?

What is the best way stop the urges. I want to get rid of the feelings.

I need someone to talk to

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i am gay and i DON'T want to change.

I fell again today. Is there anyone out there that is on Google Talk on a regular basis that I could talk to when I'm struggling? Dangit! I'm so sick of this addiction. I've seen this coming for days now. Why could I not prevent it? Am I ever going to be free of this?

Is it ok to masturbate once in a while?

Will masturbation effect your mission?

How do I avoid the temptation to masturbate? Im trying to stop but its hard

Is there anyone out there struggling with same-sex attraction? Do you have any suggestions or help to deal with this? Thanks.

Hi Guys, DO u have any advice or any uplifting stories on overcoming being gay ?? Thanks in advance

is masturbation by itself a serious sin? is it a big deal or does it not matter in the long run? is it bad i find it appealing?

well i'm really confussed on my life right now i dont really know what to do guys are confussing me right now like real bad! i like this guy but i dont know idf he likes me i think he dose well no i ddont, i think sometimes is he takeing advantege of me idk i pray to go to help me but idk Help me please

I am what you call a late bloomer. I hav barely hit puberty and im 16. I have started to masturbate because i think it will help speed up the process. Should i continue to do it?

How do i repent of masturbation?

I am about to go on a mission, but i can't give up masturbation. For some reason it doesn't seem like a big deal to me but other people sometimes make a huge deal out of it. Its normal and its good for you right? At least that's what i have heard my whole life. I descovered it at a very young age and it doesn't seem fair that a habit that i developed really young, when i didn't know it was bad, can affect my life now. I need some advice please!

Whenever i masturabate, i feel really terrible and i don't want to ever do it again. Give it a couple days though, and i have the desire to do it again. AM i in trouble? What should I do?

Will God punish you, specifically your performance in school and sports, if your masturbate?

Hi, I'm 19 years old and have had problems with pornography most of my life... I hate that more than ANY thing else. I keep trying to rid myself of it but it's just awful, I need advice in how to keep going.

I wouldn't say im addicted to masturbation, but i find myself once in a while doing it. What is the necessary repentance process for masturbation? Is it a very grevious sin? Am i a bad person for doing it?

Is masturbation a really bad thing to do? Is it really a big deal of what?

I just need someone to talk to on a regular basis. I am struggling with pornography and haev been for about 15 years now. I have plead with the Lord and he is with me in this. I can feel the spirit daily. I am more spiritual than I've every been. I guess this is one of the good things that have come about because of my addiction. Even though the Lord is with me, I still struggle. I viewed porn on the internet just today. I have been free from it for several months, but it keeps coming back. I know what is right and I know that I'm not alone. I talk with the Lord every day and, even though I keep slipping, he keeps blessing me with his love. I keep feeling the spirit not letting me go. I just want someone else to talk to. I've tried to do it on my own for too long. I have a wife and 2 beautiful kids. I don't want to lose my family. Every time I have told my wife before, I just about did lose them. I feel like if I told her this time, it would be the final straw for her. Is there anyone that would be willing to help me out. I just need someone to talk to. Thanks

I have a problem for a few years now on and off with masterbation. I try as hard as I can to stay away from the internet but it always seems to suck me in. I was wondering if any one had any tips on how it stay on top of it.

long term struggle with porn, tired of fighting, just want it over now, help

I recognize that those struggling with same gender attraction are NOT sinning but that giving in to the associated temptations IS wrong. If someone is struggling but not giving in, how do you help them accept that this is part of them but does not define them? Even if they accept it, & do not give in, it is difficult to live life according to the Plan of Salvation & form healthy dating relationships & future marriage with the opposite sex.

I feel like in order to overcome my addiction to pornography I need to be accountable and not just to myself. Who is a good person to be accountable to? (I am not married) And how often should I be accountable? Do I talk to them daily, weekly? Do I only talk to them if I slip? Let me know what you think.

I have suffered from porn addiction for nearly 26 years. I've gone many months, even years without it, but the minds eye never forgets. I need help. I want so badly to rid myself of this terrible sickness. The holow emptiness it brings is unbareable, and yet how quikly one forgets when that urge or compulsion hits. Please, please, please, if anyone knows how to rid the mind and body of this horrible affliction let me know. I want peace in my life. The scriptures say that the Lord gives us weakness to make them into strengths, if anyone knows how to turn this into a strength, I'm all ears.

What is the best way to overcome porn and masterbation addiction?

I have struggled with looking at pornography for a long time I have gone in phases of being able to withstand it lately it has gotten worse and I want to stop. I am married and I can't tell my wife. making it even harder to go to my current bishop with my problems. I don't know that anyone can give me advice but I feel that if I can just talk to someone about it I will do better.

I'm not sure how to start, or how to phrase my question that well, but I'll do my best. I have been involved with pornography on and off since the age of 10. I am incredibly fortunate in that I have a wonderful wife and children. Over the last few years, my tendencies towards pornography have declined, but they have not completely stopped. Pornography has been the root of my problem, though, and although it's not as bad as it once was I think that's where my other problems stem from. Pornography is of course a problem, but I have a larger problem. That problem deals with spirituality. I have always been a member of the church, and I have always believed it to be correct. But as much as I believe in it, I also believe that I have been completely cut off from God. I used to feel so horrible when I would do some immoral act, but my conscience bothered me less and less. Now I know what I do is wrong, but there's no real feelings of guilt. I try to read the scriptures, but I feel nothing. I know I should go to church, but I have no desire to go. I know I should repent, but I have no real desire, and I certainly don't have a "broken heart and a contrite spirit." In the back of my mind I believe my soul is in jeopardy, I'd like to make things different, but I can't find the will or desire to try. Has anyone else experienced these feelings of spiritual death? I just feel numb, it seems like I don't feel much of anything anymore. I don't know how to explain any better than that. Thank you.

Hi I am 21 years old. I started to masturbate when I was 14 and It went up and down, I quit it for 18 months when I began the university but it came back. I read thousands of articles on how to stop the masturbation, hurt or benefits it causes. But the bottom line is i want to stop it Would you please help ? Regards

Are some people more prone to Porn-Addiction then others?

I am leaving for a mission this fall. I am trying extremely hard with the help of my bishop and stake president to overcome a problem with masturbation before I leave on my mission. I would like to have it take care of especially before entering the temple. I have tried A LOT of things am I am still trying. Here is what I've tried: 1) Praying - Specifically about it (when I'm not tempted) doesn't help because then I start thinking about it or start feeling guilty. 2) Mormon Tabernacle Choir CD next to my bed - ALWAYS works but only when I remember to turn it on. 3) Singing - doesn't work because I'm too tired to keep the song going. Therefore, it stops working after I stop singing. 4) Scriptures - Always help. Trying to get them read in the morning and evening. 5) Strenuous exercise - Helps, but I need more of it...probably need to exercise so hard that I am completely exhausted so I will go right to sleep. 6) CTR ring - helped for a while, but then it didn't. 7) Prayer signs - didn't help. Praying at the moment of temptation did! Once again, when I can remember. 8) Fasting - helps a little. 9) Glow in the dark prayer reminders - didn't work because the glow wouldn't stay lit through the whole night. I bought this paint and made signs. 10) Hand cuffs - Yeah...it actually works. I chain my hands above my head and then turn on the MTC...works great but only when I can remember. 11) This is extreme, but I'm desprete...I research some natural supplements that would "slow" me down, and it seems that Licorice root does....so I ordered some of that and I'll try it out. It suppose to be good for your health in many different aspects as well. I've refused to become too upset because I am trying my best...any ideas would help. Thanks. The evening is when it is the worst.

how can i overcome masturbation? sometimes, I acidentally start, and it makes me horny. i stop, but i a still horny, so i just keep on edging over and over. if i start, should i go all the way? i need help.

I felt that I had my pornography problem under control for a good while now. I was recently married and, as I've read from many other people, being married made the temptation worse. I slipped back into the habit for a few weeks. I don't like it and I've resolved again to eliminate it from my life. But the worst part of it all is thinking what it would do to my wife if she knew. Someone suggested figuring out at what point I will tell my wife and sticking to it. I'm hoping for any suggestions for where to set that limit. Also, and perhaps more importantly, I need help understanding how to bring it up if/when I do need to tell her. I would appreciate any help that could be given.